Let’s Get Together….or not

This is a guest post written by Virigina Davidson. Please check out her adorable blog Geeky & Sassy. She also tweets @geekyandsassy. You will find her to be real and candid. I’m jealous of her mad sewing skills. Thank you Virginia for sharing!
Thanks Sarah for allowing me to share a bit with your readers!  I’m Virginia and write about my not-so-perfect journey of faith, family and home at Geeky & Sassy.  I’m sharing a bit about what I’m learning about friendship in my 30s.  This is one part of that series….

We all hear the phrase:

We should get together sometime!


Relaxing in bed the other night my husband and I began to chat about how often this phrase is used.

We all say it.

We all hear it.

The question is do we really mean it? 


In our generation it seems like it’s just a way to say goodbye.  A tagline at the end of the conversation followed with a “Yeah, definitely!  Call me.”


Others truly mean it, but expect the other person to plan it. They wait by the phone for days or weeks and are disappointed….believing nobody wants to be their friend.  In reality the people on the other end may have heard it as the general “see you later.”


Laying down that night my husband and I decided to avoid confusion and take it to the next level.  We’ll be part of a mini-revolution.  We will pull out our calendars and encourage people to follow through on their words.


Next time we hear the phrase we’ll push it through and plan it.  This is a hope that those that don’t really want to hang out may learn to say no.  Or those that offer and don’t mean it won’t offer again.  And maybe, just maybe, it’ll push shy people to take the next step.


If you’re around me and I suggest getting together you better tell me that you don’t have time or I may pull out my calendar.  There are so many lonely people and misunderstandings I’d like to mean what I say.


Are you one that says things and doesn’t mean it?  Do you need to be bold and ask?  Are you willing to face rejection to develop relationships?


I hope you’ll come visit me at my writing home and check in with the rest of the friendship series.


June 10, 2012 - 12:44 am

Melissa @ the pleatd polka dot - This is something I have been working on for a while. When I say let’s hang out and the other person agrees I go ahead and say “can you meet Wednesday or Thursday night around 8pm?” That gives us both tentative plans with only the date needing confirmation. I’ve gotten to know quite a few people lately from being a bit more outgoing, which is normally out of my comfort zone. I’m finding the more I do it, the more comfortable it becomes:-))

June 21, 2012 - 7:48 pm

Sarah - That is great advice! I am going to try that the next time someone says “we should get together”!

July 12, 2012 - 7:47 pm

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