We all hear the phrase:
We should get together sometime!
Relaxing in bed the other night my husband and I began to chat about how often this phrase is used.
We all say it.
We all hear it.
The question is do we really mean it?
In our generation it seems like it’s just a way to say goodbye. A tagline at the end of the conversation followed with a “Yeah, definitely! Call me.”
Others truly mean it, but expect the other person to plan it. They wait by the phone for days or weeks and are disappointed….believing nobody wants to be their friend. In reality the people on the other end may have heard it as the general “see you later.”
Laying down that night my husband and I decided to avoid confusion and take it to the next level. We’ll be part of a mini-revolution. We will pull out our calendars and encourage people to follow through on their words.
Next time we hear the phrase we’ll push it through and plan it. This is a hope that those that don’t really want to hang out may learn to say no. Or those that offer and don’t mean it won’t offer again. And maybe, just maybe, it’ll push shy people to take the next step.
If you’re around me and I suggest getting together you better tell me that you don’t have time or I may pull out my calendar. There are so many lonely people and misunderstandings I’d like to mean what I say.
Are you one that says things and doesn’t mean it? Do you need to be bold and ask? Are you willing to face rejection to develop relationships?
I hope you’ll come visit me at my writing home and check in with the rest of the friendship series.